WHY YOU SHOULDN'T CONSIDER DATING YOUR BEST FRIEND OF OPPOSITE SEX



Many people have argued that one of the best relationships in the world is dating your own best friend. He/she already knows everything about you and would be very fun to hang out with, just imagine how fun your relationship would be with him/her. But relationships are not always about been happy always. Fights, arguments and disappointment will always surface and if this surface there is every possibility that the relationship will be over, and if you break up with him/her your friendship will be over as well. Here are some solid reasons on why you should not consider dating your best friend of opposite sex.

1. IT COULD BE DETRIMENTAL TO YOUR FRIENDSHIP
Love is the most dangerous thing between the friendship of a man and a woman. Everything will change once you fall in love with your bestfriend. You have to be prepared to lose all those years you spent with him/her as best friends if things didn’t work out as planned.
The role as a best friend and a lover is completely different. You used to be okay if he spent days locked inside his room playing video games without calling you at all. But once you date him, you’ll be annoyed by how he seems to love his video games more than you. Or You used to be okay if she goes to cinemas with her male friends but once you start dating her, you might get annoyed by this act. This can cause a fight or argument you’ve never had it with him/her before.

2. YOU WILL BECOME UNCOMFORTABLE AT ONE POINT IN TIME
Dating your best friend is quite similar with dating your brother or sister. After all the jokes and making fun of each other, you suddenly have to act all sweet, romantic and lovey dovey. At first it might feel uncomfortable, but if you can’t make it work, you might feel that way forever. If you used to know the way you made your best friend feel better when he/she is in trouble, you have to find another way as a lover.
Besides, he/she knows all of your deepest secrets and all the dirty history of your past relationships as well. It will make you feel like you walk around naked in front of your lover all the time because you really have nothing to hide.

3. YOU CAN NEVER BE AS OPEN AS YOU USED TO
This is just the simple truth. If you date your best friend, it means you find a lover but lost a best friend. That is an undeniable truth. A Lover and best friend are two different things, although it’s good to have a lover who is like a best friend and vice versa, sometimes you wished he/she is your best friend.
When a hot guy/girl passes in front of you, you can’t tell him/her how cool he/she is because he/she is no longer your best friend and it could spark jealousy. The same thing goes with your darkest secrets. You can’t tell him/her about them anymore.

4. YOU WOULD HAVE LOST YOUR CHIEF ADVISER
Relationship can sometimes get rough. When bad things happens, you look for him/her to ask for advice. you’ll be able to see something from your boyfriend/girlfriend’s point of view. But if your adviser is the one you date right now, to whom will you be running to?

5.  YOU DON’T HAVE TO LOSE HIM/HER
Friendship and relationship are the two things we need in our lives. Sometimes we value our friendship more because there will be no ex friends. But once your relationship is over, you and him/her will become exes, and it will become hard to get back as friends. In fact, the case of exes getting back to good terms is very rare. It’s better to have him/her as your best friend so you’ll never lose him/her, rather than dating him/her and soon become exes.

6. YOU MAY BE DISAPPOINTED BY WHAT YOU’LL FIND
As your status changes, unconsciously you begin to set a new expectations from him. If he/she used to be okay with you when you came out from your front door with messy hair and sleepy smells, he/she may not tolerate them once you start dating. When he/she’s hanging out with his/her friends, you would be wishing he’d rather spend the time with you while he/she wants some freedom. You end up keeping the disappointment inside and it will blow someday.

7. MAYBE IT’S NOT REALLY WORTH IT
Dating your best friend is not always as good as everyone says. With you knowing all his/her deepest secrets, his/her bad side and good side, think about it once again. Is it really worth it to risk the friendship you’ve had all along just to give it a try and date him/her? Because once it didn’t work, you’ll never have him/her back as your best friend.


8. YOU WILL PROBABLY GET BORED
In a relationship, it’s good to have a little adventure and learning about each other. It’s amazing to find out how good of a person you are and a unique habit you never knew existed. You’ll be able to discover a new place and going on a trip together. But all of those things is nothing new if you date your best friend. His favorite place, his worst habit, and his behavior, you already knew all of it since long ago. This will easily make you bored because it feels like you are reading the same book but only in a different place.

 #LarrysThoughts

"So those are the good reasons for you to consider why you should not consider dating your best friend. It’s not really worth it to put your friendship on the line. It will be easy to date and break up, but finding a best friend is hard. If you are not really sure that he/she’s the one, it’s better for you to suppress the desire you developed for him/her, because staying as a good friend is more worth it than risking it for something you are not really sure of."








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