WHY YOU SHOULD CONSIDER DATING YOUR BEST FRIEND OF OPPOSITE SEX



If you've used the phrase "Oh, he/she's just my friend!" to describe a close acquaintance, you should listen up, for I have people that used to be like you — the girl who friend-zoned someone so hard, that all aspects of love should have gone out the window. Dating your best friend may seem intimidating, but it can also be the best decision of your life. There are some best friends who   both involved themselves with many different romantic relationships before giving their friendship a shot at something else, and they will feel like if they didn't consider dating their best friend, their life would be drastically different (and probably way sad). 

The most attractive qualities in another human, I've learned, is the barrage of support they have given you throughout your life, as well as the years of history between the two of you. Just imagine him/her as a partner, just one time, and see if your perception changes a bit. Unless, of course, you prefer the challenges of trying to meet and connect someone who doesn't know anything about you. Dating doesn't have to be so difficult, or so heartbreaking — the key to true happiness might just be right in front of you the entire time. Below are some solid reasons why you should seriously consider dating your best friends of opposite sex:

1. YOU'VE PROBABLY ALREADY HAD YOUR FIRST DATE
He/she already knows your favorite color, and he/she understands your personal views of the future. And since this "first date" was likely a friendly hangout, this information was revealed without anxiety or nerves. Obviously you know that he/she likes hanging out with you, so you don't have to interpret vague texts or lament with your boyfriends/girlfriends about the issue. First dates are the absolute worst. By dating your best friend, you've already moved past all of the "getting to know you" awkward parts.

2. HE MIGHT HAVE ALREADY MET YOUR FAMILY

Meeting parents is massively stressful, but if this guy/girl has hung around you enough, he/she's already familiar with your mom and dad. And unless your parents ever pulled you aside with advice like, "I don't trust this hooligan or whore!" he/she already has already gotten the parental seal of approval. In fact, if you mention the relationship to your parents, you'll probably get the response of "Finally!" or "It's about time!" or "So when will we have grandkids?".

3. YOU BOTH HAVE A LOT ON THE LINE

Granted, there's a chance that the two of you might just be a romantic mismatch. And there's a chance that this failed experiment might tarnish the friendship entirely. It's a scary situation! This has been your go-to guy/girl for years, so you can't even imagine the possibility of removing him/her from your life if there's no love connection.
Your best friend is also scared about this possibility, but you know what? You're worth the risk. Knowing that this relationship will probably move much more quickly than the guy/girl you successfully swiped on facebook/whatsapp is a reality that both of you will face, but if you both agree to take the steps, you're both "all in." And, hey — It could also end up being a great situation, which would also turn out pretty amazingly.

4. HE/SHE ALREADY KNOWS ABOUT YOUR PAST RELATIONSHIPS

Unless you just met him/her and bonded instantly, he/she's probably seen or at least heard about your dating disasters of the past. And, likewise. You've probably heard about how his/her last boyfriend/girlfriend was possessive, or needy, or crazy, or in a secret cult, or all of the above. While these events may have been traumatizing for the both of you at the time, the positive spin is that you both know what doesn't work in a relationship with the other person. This is key in starting a happy and healthy new relationship. So, if he/she knows that you were dumped due to an ex's cheating ways, he'll obviously know that you'll be ultra-sensitive on the issue, and won't even make jokes about the matter.

5. YOU KNOW THAT YOU ALREADY HAVE A TON IN COMMON

Obviously there's a shared interest or two which caused you to meet up in the first place. Or, maybe it was a mutual friend who brought you together. Whatever it is, you know that a lot of your interests are aligned. If they weren't, you would have hid him on Facebook the second that feature became available. Especially if he/she's somewhat of a social media over-sharer.
If you both bond over something, dates won't be as hard to plan. For example, if you're both psyched about the outdoors, a hike will never be boring. If you both like music, you can always check to see who's playing at the local club. A date can simply be an event you've wanted to check out anyway, and probably would have, regardless of your romantic status.

6. HE/SHE'S FULLY AWARE OF YOUR BAD HABITS

Let's face it, we've all got one (or 12). He/she might joke about your gross (yet satisfying) nail biting habit, or he/she's probably aware that one glass of wine too many makes you become wild in social settings.
When you're dating, you're just cringing over anticipation of the moment when these habits come to light. You'll be wondering if whether or not eating scoopfuls of peanut butter from the jar will be his/her dealbreaker, or if the fact that your socks are bunched together like a pile of unmatched nightmares will turn him off. Your best friend accepts you for you. And it's such a good feeling.

7. HE/SHE MAKES YOU FEEL REALLY GOOD ABOUT YOURSELF

If he/she didn't, you wouldn't hang out with him/her. Your mood is elevated during his/her presence, even if it's when you're doing something stupid like snarking on movie selections. He/she's the first one you call when you're down, and no matter what, he/she always knows what to say.

8. HE/SHE'S SEEN YOU UNDER-DRESSED A BILLION TIMES, AND LIKES YOU JUST THE SAME

How many times have you switched shirts before a first date? It's super doubtful that a date would have gone differently if you chose a V-neck tee instead of round neck tee, but the paranoia that sets in regarding wardrobe selection will definitely make you nutty.
Your best friend has seen you in all types of tees and dresses both good and bad as well as the one that is two steps away from being a dust rag. In your head, you didn't feel the need to "try" in front of your best friend you were just you. So, while you'd love to still dress up for special dates, you know that one false move won't change anything.

#LarrysThoughts

"Whether or not we make it a priority, we all go through life trying to find “The One.” For some, the search is harder: going on dates after dates without making a real connection, or suffering through a string of unsuccessful relationships.
But, if 'When Harry Met Sally' taught us anything, it is that sometimes “The One” is right in front of you. It’s not always about finding someone who is just your type or the person who is the most physically attractive. Sometimes, “The One” is simply finding someone whom you have a true and honest connection with, and someone who loves you just as you are, warts and all. And that someone might just be your best friend, the person who has been there all along.
When “The One” doesn’t seem to be showing up when you need to meet him/her. Your best friend might just be the person you’re meant to have that bright, happy future with! Just a word of advice on dating your best friend: It can be next to impossible to go back to the way you used to be if dating them doesn’t work out. However, knowing that you’ll be dating someone whom you trust wholeheartedly can certainly make it seem like a worthy endeavor despite the risks. This could make the relationship last longer than you can ever imagine as the love will continue waxing stronger and stronger."


 

 



 


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